Lessons learned

O the things you learn when given time away from relationships. Learning about myself really puts things in perspective.

1) i can put up with a lot, but that doesn't mean i have to.
2) sometimes it just isn't right.
3) people are not bad because you break up.
4) don't put yourself on the back-burner for someone else for too long.
5) if asked to change drastically the person really doesn't love you.
6) sure sharing moments is great, but the silence and arguments in between don't make up for it.
7) things should be easy day to day.
8) when crisis happens you come together rather than pull apart.
9) trust that what i say is what i mean, there are no ulterior motives.
10) you do you, i do me, we come together. if that doesn't work than we wont work.
11) i know how to make myself happy, and am fine alone, and there are always other fish in the sea if i want. A reminder that life goes on.
12) a bad experience wont dim me from pursuing a connection with another love and i will not let bitterness or anger win.
13) there is no timeline, and there is no end game, things and people come and go and you live in the moment.
14) things are not always 50-50 but if after years one has supported the other's drama w/o equivalent support in return then that is a problem.
15) don't let your partner control your social life
16) there is no need for nagging, i can take care of myself just fine w/o you, the world will still spin
17) controlling behavior just is worthless, and it repels
18) strong and independent dont always mean emotionally available or good partners
19) craft a strong bond with your partner
20) share similar dreams